Kids don’t come with a user manual and many moms do several mistakes while raising them. Being a new mom, curiousness and panic was a natural part of the mother’s journey. But I am one of those who did few mistakes while raising my baby girl. And learned many things too.
There are not only good parenting stories but also bad parenting lessons. Thankfully these mistakes did not lead us to any unfortunate events. But they keep ringing alarms every time.
We keep reading lot of bad parenting stories, this could be one of them 🙁
PS – I am not a bad mom … trying to be the best mom.
Baby passing the stool frequently:
My baby was a week old. And used to pass a stool after every feed. I was not sure if it is natural as the stool used to be watery. I just wanted to consult a pediatrician for this but he was not available at the time. So I called up a family friend who is a well known pediatric surgeon. I explained the situation to him and he said he is not sure and can’t say anything over the phone. And asked me to go to a nearby hospital.
I went there as per his reference. Met a pediatrician over there, he said everything seems to be normal with her but still will keep her under observation. Very next moment another doctor came there and she started talking all the rubbish (which I realized later). She said “God, the baby has become so pale. I think she has lost all the body water. You need to get her hospitalized asap.” I got scared as she was the senior doctor. They took the baby inside.
I went to fill up the form and it was written, ‘As doctors have informed you that the disease of the baby is severe and we are not responsible for any unfortunate incidences happening during the treatment’. It was shocking as no such thing was discussed and no such disease had happened to my little one. I refused to sign the form, but they had started the treatment without the form submission. It surprised me.
I contacted the admin of the hospital and she said see we started the treatment as the baby is more important than money.
Same evening another serious kid had arrived at the hospital but was denied the admission as the parents did not have money for the deposit. It triggered my anger and I started fighting with the hospital staff that they should discharge my baby immediately. I spoke to some other doctor over the phone and she recommended to take a DAMA discharge that I am taking the responsibility of my own baby.
I filled the DAMA form and took my baby away. She had cried the whole night due to the saline pain and staying away from me. Next morning I left for Andheri and visited a well-known Pediatrician. She checked my baby and said that nothing has happened to my baby. It is quite natural to pass a stool after every feed. It can be watery. And all the medicines given to her were not required at all.
My foolishness and doctors’ greediness made my baby suffer for that night.
That gave me a lesson that not to panic and rush to big hospitals.
Keep calm, see a regular pediatrician and never ever consult on phone calls.
There is another incident – overdose of medicine:
My baby always had sleeping issues, never could sleep properly for a long stretch and I was worried for her and myself too. As I was sleep deprived for a longer time. I consulted a pediatrician and he prescribed a medicine which was a sedative. I was skeptical of giving it to her and still continued with her disturbed sleep patterns.
One night she cried for hours and hours and then I decided to give that prescribed sedative medicine to her, it was written 3 drops but hurriedly I thought 3 ml as the drop was written with some sign. I thought 3 ml is too much to give and I gave 0.5 ml to her. She slept immediately after that but for my surprise, she did not get up for next 7-8 hours and then we were worried.
She was still taking breastfeeding if it was offered to her but was not able to open her eyes. It made me scared and angry on myself of not reading the signs on prescription properly, I swore by her never to use that medicine again and just threw it into the dustbin. And I tried waking her up. A little overdose could be hazardous. I splashed some water on her eyes and she woke up with heavy eyes.
My mom had tears in her eyes to see the little bundle of joy awake again. We prayed to the God to keep her safe.
These few mistakes, but had taken my heartbeats away. I just try to be careful while giving any new medicine now and sedatives are a boycotted case now. Never ever used natural sedatives too. My baby is 2 and half years old now and still had sleeping issues but just sometime back I found amazing toxin-free and safe baby products brand Mamaearth, and its baby massage oil has soothed my baby and helped her sleep through the night without getting up and crying frequently.
To avoid other issues with her like rashes and all, I switched to the Mamaearth baby products range completely. It includes safe baby bath products like Mamaearth body wash and shampoo, safe baby skincare products like Mamaearth body lotion and mosquito repellent cream (as it is very mild on skin and does not give any side effects like other poisonous products).
Searching and finding all the baby safe products is my priority to avoid all the bad parenting stories in future. I regret and repent all the earlier mistakes committed by me and thank God that my baby was safe through these incidents. I wish to be a very good mother.
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