Kids don’t come with a user manual and many moms do several mistakes while raising them. Being curious and panic was a natural part of the mother’s journey. But I am one of those who did few mistakes while raising my baby girl. And learned many things too. Thankfully these mistakes did not lead us to any unfortunate events. But they keep ringing alarms every time.
PS – I am not a bad mom … trying to be the best mom.
Baby passing the stool frequently:
My baby was a week old. And used to pass a stool after every feed. I was not sure if it is natural as the stool used to be watery. I just wanted to consult a pediatrician for this but he was not available at the time. So I called up a family friend who is a well known pediatric surgeon. I explained the situation to him and he said he is not sure and can’t say anything over the phone. And asked me to go to a nearby hospital.
I went there as per his reference. Met a pediatrician over there, he said everything seems to be normal with her but still will keep her under observation. Very next moment another doctor came there and she started talking all the rubbish (which I realized later). She said “God, the baby has become so pale. I think she has lost all the body water. You need to get her hospitalized asap.” I got scared as she was the senior doctor. They took the baby inside. I went to fill up the form and it was written, ‘As doctors have informed you that the disease of the baby is severe and we are not responsible for any unfortunate incidences happening during the treatment’. It was shocking as no such thing was discussed and no such disease had happened to my little one. I refused to sign the form, but they had started the treatment without the form submission. It surprised me. I contacted the admin of the hospital and she said see we started the treatment as the baby is more important than money.
Same evening another serious kid had arrived at the hospital but was denied the admission as the parents did not have money for the deposit. It triggered my anger and I started fighting with the hospital staff that they should discharge my baby immediately. I spoke to some other doctor over the phone and she recommended to take a DAMA discharge that I am taking the responsibility of my own baby.
I filled the DAMA form and took my baby away. She had cried the whole night due to the saline pain and staying away from me. Next morning I left for Andheri and visited a well-known Pediatrician. She checked my baby and said that nothing has happened to my baby. It is quite natural to pass a stool after every feed. It can be watery. And all the medicines given to her were not required at all.
My foolishness and doctors’ greediness made my baby suffer for that night.
That gave me a lesson that not to panic and rush to big hospitals.
Keep calm, see a regular pediatrician and never ever consult on phone calls.